I have been rejected by Pay Per Post

Oh my God. I think it has been few months that I have written anything to my blog.
I have been busy with lots of thing…and I think the worst part is my blog has been rejected by Pay Per Post. Well, never mind. It’s a challenge for me to start all over again.

A lot of new things happened to me lately. I got a job as a Senior Landscape Architect at one of the developer in Klang and definitely I have to switch my Financial Planner job as a part time job. I love my Financial Planner job very much but then I need some back up for doing this business.

But the most difficult part is I have work like hell. Most likely l have to work 8 days a week. It’s really tough because I used to have a quality time with my son, Aish but then….. Aish always asked me, “Ibu, why do always work long hours?” I was so shocked when he asked me that question. He was only three and half years old but he already understand. I think he miss me so much. It has been more than a month I worked over there, still in adjusting session. But I try really hard to manage my time especially with my family.

Anyway, I have created another blog for sharing with others how to make money online in Malaysia. Most of online business or opportunities are not suitable for Malaysian. What I am going share with you is the opportunity to make money online that suitable for Malaysian and definitely not scam. If you would like to know more please visit my blog http://makw-money-online-malaysia.blogspot.com.

Protect Children!!

Available at : http://www.kidscape.org.uk/parents/paedophiles.shtml . Parents who contact Kidscape are worried about the best way to protect children, especially when they are out on their own. This leaflet http://www.kidscape.org.uk/download/index.asp> gives practical advice for keeping children safe and information on how paedophiles, people who sexual ly abuse children, target children.

Who are Paedophiles?
* Paedophiles may seem perfectly respectable and 'nice'. They are extremely cunning and clever at worming their way into your confidence so that you trust them alone with your children.
* Paedophiles do not necessarily look dirty, weird or creepy or act suspiciously - they often behave like everyone else and look 'normal'.
* Paedophiles come from all classes, professions, racial and religious backgrounds.
* The majority of known paedophiles are male, though some women abuse children.
* 66% of paedophiles are known to the child, 34% are strangers.

What paedophiles say
This information comes from the paedophiles themselves, who told Kidscape how they ensnare children.
* Paedophiles are good at making friends with children. They offer to teach them games, sports or how to play a musical instrument. They take them on outings, give them gifts, bribes, toys & money or treats and trick children into trusting them.
* Paedophiles often target single-parent families where mothers might be especially grateful for help with looking after the children.
* 48% of the paedophiles found their victims through babysitting.
* 30% of the paedophiles had each committed offences against 10 to 450 victims, 70% had between 1 to 10 victims.
* Paedophiles find victims by hanging round places children are likely > to go, such as:
* arcades
* school premises
* shopping centres
* amusement or theme parks
* playgrounds
* parks
* swimming baths
* fairs
* fast food chains

* Be suspicious if someone is more interested in your children than in you, someone who always wants to babysit, take your children on outings someone who wants to get your children alone.

What parents can do
* Check on anyone who is left in charge of your children or wants to spend time alone with them, especially babysitters. Talk (not just write) to other people they have worked for.
* Encourage discussions about personal safety, getting lost, and bullying by playing 'What if?' games with children.
* Practise the Kidscape rule "Yell, Run, Tell" with children so they feel confident about using safety strategies.
* Explain to children the difference between "safe" and "unsafe" secrets. A secret about a surprise birthday party is OK, but no one should ever ask them to keep kisses or touches secret.
* Buy your children a Travelcard and/or Phonecard so that they can always call you or get home.
* Arrange to have a family codeword. Tell your child that if anyone ever tries to collect them for you, the person will always know the codeword. "No Code, No Go".
* When visiting public places (shopping centres, funfairs) always arrange a meeting place with your child in case you get separated ("I will meet you outside Marks & Spencer" or "by the fountain").
* Most paedophiles are not strangers. Tell children that if anyone, even someone they know, touches them in a confusing or frightening way they should tell you.
Tell your children
* To be wary of public toilets and to go in with a friend, if possible. If anyone approaches you, get out fast. (Parents - don't be embarrassed to stand outside the toilet and shout in "Are you all right in there?" - puts paedophiles right off!)
* If someone you don't know speaks to you, pretend you haven't heard and walk quickly away.
* Never take sweets, presents, or lifts from people you don't know.
* Never go up to a car to give directions - keep away so that no one can get hold of you and you can run away.
* If something bad does happen to you, even if you have broken a rule, you should tell me about it and I will help sort things out. (One child was walking in a park when told not to and was molested she was afraid to tell because she had broken the rule about being in the park). Children should make a fuss!
* If someone tries to touch or grab you, shout "NO", get away as fast as you can and then tell an adult. Practise the Kidscape rule: "Yell, Run, Tell".
* Remember, if someone frightens you, it is okay to break rules, shout or make a fuss.
* Always run towards shops or places with people.
* If you think that you are being followed, go into a shop or knock on the door of a house - ask for help.
* Break any rule to keep safe. Even break a window to attract attention, if necessary.
Play safe
* Never play in dark or lonely places, or in empty streets and stairwells.
* Stay with friends or with a group and don't wander off on your own, even if you're playing hide and seek - hide with a friend.
* If you are in a shopping centre, arcade or disco and someone offers you money to do a job or errand, don't do it - it could be a trick.
* Don't walk to and from school on your own - team up with a friend or a group.
* Always tell your parents where you're going and when you'll be back.
Getting lost
* Learn your own address, telephone number and postcode.
* If you get lost, go into a shop or a place with lots of people and ask for help, or find a police officer, a security guard, or a traffic warden to ask. If you can't find a shop assistant or a person in a uniform, ask a man or a woman with children to help you
* Don't go into a house or office, or phonebox with anyone - wait outside while they telephone your parents or the police.
* Don't get into a car or accept a lift from anyone -say you'll wait for your parents or the police to fetch you.

TRAVELLING ALONE
* Travel in a train carriage with other people.
* Carry enough money for your return trip and never spend it on anything else.
* Work out what you would do if you missed your train or bus. How would you get home? Is there someone you could call?
Telephones
* Know how to use a public call box and how to contact your parents or whoever takes care of you.
* Know how to make an emergency 'phone call.
* You don't need money to make a reverse charge call (the person at the other end pays the bill).
* Carry a Phonecard so that you can always call home if you get stuck somewhere.
What if something happens?
* Be aware of changes in your child's behaviour which might indicate that something is not right. See Kidscape's Child Abuse: Signs and Symptoms <http://www.kidscape.org.uk/download/index.asp> leaflet.
* If your child doesn't want to be with someone, find out why. Children may say things like, "I don't want you to go out tonight", when they really mean "I don't want to be left with the babysitter".
* Stay calm and try not to transmit anger, shock or embarrassment to your child.
* Ensure that your child knows you believe her/him.
* Tell children it is NEVER their fault if someone abuses them.
* Praise your child for having told you and for 'getting through the ordeal'. Tell them you love them.
* Seek help for the child and yourself.

The Kidscape research study of paedophiles (sponsored by The Nuffield Foundation) is also available, upon request, from the above address. Kidscape is the first charity in the UK established specifically to teach children about keeping safe before they become victims of abuse or bullying. Kidscape's message is prevention.

Teacher's Day

It has been more than a week that I didn't write anything to my blog. Well, this time I just going to paste photos of Aish when Teacher's Day held at his kindergarden on 25th May 2007. They performed the pom pom dance to their teacher.

Aish and his classmate was having fun performed the pompom dance.

Aish and Aisyah (one of his bestfriend)

Trip to KLCC

I was so busy last week that I don't even have a time to write about Aish's trip to KLCC on the 10th of July.....On that day, we arrived 8:30am at school and the bus was already there. Aish was so excited that he wanted to ride the bus. But then we have to wait for others.

It was amazing to see that all the 3 years old & 4 years old children can listened and followed what their teacher told them. They qued before they ride the bus and even in side the bus they can sit down properly. Only one or two kids that need to be reminded.(I am the only parent that followed the trip)

We arrived at KLCC Park at 10:00am as planned and again the kids had to line up, hold hands and walk to the wading pool. Those kids quickly changed their clothes then jumped into the wading pool. Aish was freely playing and he doesn't even bother that I was there. Usual when we when to any wading pool he always fell insecure. Maybe because everybody around him are his friends and he relly enjoyed himself. After more than an hour on the pool, the kids changed their clothes and played at the playground.

All the kids are exausted and hungry. So, the school headmaster decided us to have our 'brunch' at Taman Tasik Titiwangsa. We reached at Taman Tasik at 12 o'clock. We had 'nasi goreng cina' while watching The Eye of Malaysia. On the way back, most of the kids slept on the bus but not Aish. He still enjoyed the city view especially the cars.

They line up before they ride the bus.

Just arrive at KLLC Park.

Aish is going for a trip already?

Tommorow Aish is going for school trip to KLCC from 8am till 12noon. My son is only 3 years old and he already had a school trip. My first school trip when I was in standard three and I went Bukit Cherakah ( which is right now at the back of house ). I want to let Aish go to this trip so that he can enjoy with his friends. But I had few objections from my family because of the there's a lot of missing kids and afraid maybe he will get accident or whatsoever.... Well, another suggestion is that I also going for this trip...We'll see tommorrow..

Amazing Technology

It's amazing how people making money through internet and blogging. So, I would like take this opportunity to write anything that I love that I can share with a lot of parents especially new mommies like me. At the moment, I am still training my son on potty-trained. So, below are the article wrote by Robin Heine which I think can be useful to me and maybe other parents out there.

DETERMINING TOILET-TRAINING READINESS YOUR AUTISTIC CHILD
Figuring out when your child is ready for toilet training is quite easy. There are several benchmarks that can be used in both autistic children and typical children. The age of toilet training ranges from 2-4 in typical children. In autistic children it can be quite later, due to sensory integration issues. However, in my experience, often the child is physically ready, but the parent is not. As parents, we must not be afraid to explore both our child's physical and emotional readiness, but we almost peer into our own physical and emotional barriers as well. While the methods might be time-consuming, you must commit yourself to doing what needs to be done on a consistent basis, always willing to expand, and be flexible during this time. Keep in mind that the process may be time consuming and quite possibly arduous, but the rewards of having a self-reliant child are worth any obstacles you may have to overcome.
The markers for determine if your child is ready for toilet training are the same as for typical children, if your child displays the majority of the following:


1. Holds urine for an hour or more

2. Goes to a special spot to urinate/defecate

3. Gets a special look over their face before voiding in diaper

4. Indicates verbally or nonverbally that his diaper is soiled

5. Can be taught to inmate self-care routine pulling up and down pants, etc.


Let's break down each of these markers further.
Holds urine for an hour or more. The classic test for this is dry diaper-For example, if you put your child in a diaper at 7:00 am, and then check again at 8:00 am, and the diaper is dry-and then when you check the diaper again at 8:30 am, it is super wet-then your child has bladder control. Goes to a special spot to void/defecate. Frequently, in my consulting business, I use charts to have parents keep track of bowel movements/voiding times before actually beginning toilet-training sessions.. These charts are more observational in nature, as it helps to see what latent and undeveloped but critical potty-skills a child has. In my chart, I have a spot for-"went to special area of the house". Frequently when these filled charts come out, a pattern emerges such the child will go hide behind the couch in the family room, or goes into his room and stays there. If your child does go to a special spot, you know that he is sensing his body, and is at least aware of what is going on sensorial.


Verbal/Nonverbal cues voiding is occurring In my chart handout, I have an area for parents to write observations about their child's body/facial movements just prior before elimination takes place. For example, one little girl I worked with didn't go to a special or private area of the house to void in her diaper, but she did squat down and make grunting noises/sighs when she eliminated in her diaper. Again, it's about your child's ability to sense the feeling to eliminate.
Verbal/Nonverbal cues of soiled diapers Autistic children can be quite subtle in communicating with parents. However, some children will indicate by tugging on extremely wet diapers, dancing around, flapping hands when soiled. I have seen autistic children walk over to their changing pad, or lie down next to their changing table when soiled. Again, I find a chart that a parent/caregiver filled out for at least three weeks to be extremely helpful in catching these subtle clues.


Can be taught or shows willingness/participate in self-care skills, such as pulling on and off pants, washing hands, etc. Many autistic children have poor gross and fine motor skills, however, very few cannot be taught to dress themselves. In my work, I have found that this depends on the parents' willingness to teach their children' self-reliance skills. I suggest that if you have doubts about your child's abilities to do basic dressing/undressing skills, you consult your qualified medical professional such as your child's pediatrician, physical therapist or occupational therapist.


In addition to your child's readiness to be potty-trained, you have to ask yourself if you are ready to have your child be potty-trained. On the surface, it seems like a no-brainer, however, in many cases, it is the parents, and not the children, who weren't willing to be committed to the process for various reasons.

Some of these reasons include:

1. A lack of commitment of time/resources

2. Frustration with the one process/method leading parent to quit the process too soon

3. Unwillingness to tailor-make a method work for the parent/child, or lack of flexibility in being willing to embrace unorthodox methods-potty schedules, alarm wristwatches, portable potty kit for community outings.

4. An unmet emotional need such a keeping child dependent on parent/caregiver gives validation and meaning to parent

5. A need for attention or being thought of as a martyr/victim by other family members/friends/community

6. Fear of child's temper tantrums


I am not being harsh on parents, however, after potty-training several autistic children, it was never the children who weren't ready to be potty-trained, it was the parents subconsciously held their children back from being potty-trained. Just as it is critical that your child be ready for potty training, it is just as important and crucial that you as a parent commit to your child's development.


Potty-training your autistic child is doable. The first step is to make sure you as the parent and the child are physically and emotionally ready for what can be a challenging process, but a process that can be rewarding and open new doors to both your child, you and your family.

Magic English

Hi. My name is Azlyn. I just started to blog and I love to write and share about my son, Aish Danial. Aish turned three years old on the 24th June 2007. He is very talkaltive and brilliant boy. Two days ago, I bought the Disney Magic English for him and he loved to watch it. Yesterday, he watch the DVD from 8:30pm untill 10:00pm